Hello to whoever is reading!
My husband recently just got back from a ten day business trip. I needed a break.
Now, do not get me wrong, I love my 3 wonderful children, and they were really well behaved. But after 10 days being the single parent, (if you are a single parent reading this, YOU are amazing!) I needed solitude. It became evident after a rough start to the day yesterday. Three children whining before breakfast is even over doesn't bode well for the day. (Does yelling at the top of my lungs like a tantrum-throwing 2 year, toothbrush in hand, "I AM NOT HAVING A GOOD DAY" to my half-shaved and startled husband say anything!?!)
Anyay, it was decided by the rational parent (Dan) I should take off for a coffee shop break immediately following supper that evening and not return for a few hours. (he loves me, he really does)
That brings me to the title of this post.
I was GIDDY to be out of the house with a whole evening of solitude ahead of me.
I step up to the coffee counter and blurt out the following 8 words to the barrista:
"My husband kicked me out of the house!"
Seeing her eyes round to the size of saucers and her jaw literally drop, I realized that might have come out wrong :) As she started to apologize for my situation, I quickly explained that it was a loving thing to do - that my husband was watching our 3 little children so I could have some alone time. Visibly relaxing, she took my 1/2 decaf, skinny mocha with a shot of english toffee order.
Unfortunately, I tend to blurt out words without first considering how they might sound to others. In my head, it all makes perfect sense. (I have a crazy way of making 5 different thought processes fit together in a tangled web of perfect sense.... to me alone, but perfect sense.)
On the spiritual side, it made me realize I sure am glad God is not a God of confusion.
He says what He means and means what He says. And if my eyes happen to pop out, or my jaw drops after reading a particular verse, all I have to do is keep reading the entire passage for context, or cross reference other verses dealing with the same topic. Then I get the clear picture of what Jesus is trying to teach me.
This brings me to the interactive portion of this post. I have two questions for you:
1) Has anyone else ever said something and had it taken in a completely wrong/different way?
2) Does anyone else feel their super single parent powers dissolve into crazy parent mush the moment your spouse(or other helper) walks in the door? (I promise I did not behave like a two year old while Dan was away. I was responsible, patient, loving, and in general, a poster-perfect parent. Well, at least I thought so in my head)
Dear Susie....I could quote you today...."I AM NOT HAVING A GOOD DAY". but it's better now...I'm home with my wonderful husband!
ReplyDeleteLove you...Mom
Uh, yeah. Just about any time I write a post about skin color, it gets taken the wrong way :)
ReplyDeleteI'm excited about this blog adventure!
As a starter gift, I'd like to share my favorite site for writing (and publishing!) tips, and also a bit of humor. I've learned a lot from it.
http://www.inkygirl.com/
And also, http://cba-ramblings.blogspot.com/
Fan-tas-tic blog.
She's an agent for WordServe, a company specialized in serving Christian authors who are seeking to be published either with a Christian publisher or in the general market.
Thanks, Kari.
ReplyDeleteI already follow Rachel Gardner's blog.
And I agree. Fan-tas-tic!
I also really like christian living author Marla Taviano's website and Mary DeMuth's "So you wanna be publishes" blog.
I'll definitely check out inkygirl!
Thanks for you encouraging words! As a mom in pretty much the same boat I related to all you said perfectly. I do blurt out things, often, that sound wrong when they come out of my mouth. Ask my family. I think I have a reputation for blurting. Anyhow, I am amazed that you were the poster parent for 10 days as a single mom. I wouldn't be able to say the same! That the Lord for grace, huh?
ReplyDeleteTiffany - definitely with you on the "blurter" thing! And I agree, THANK the LORD for His grace. But you will note that I said I was poster parent.."in my head" :)
ReplyDeleteWords taken wrong...all the time and usually by you. The first one that comes to mind is kind of pg-13...close your eyes if you'll be offended. You were babysitting and a light that isn't usually on behind the couch was, and it shone right on a pair of my 3 year olds panites. I blurted there's panties back there and you instantly did not want any more details, your good girl mind thinking all kinds of things.
ReplyDeleteYour other question-YES! When my husband steps through the door I'm done. No longer do I have to be in patient and in control...it's his turn. I often regret this.
-Jenny
Woohoo! Look at you all updating and replying to comments. I'm impressed!
ReplyDeleteBritt - Great post! I'm with J. et K. - very impressive with all the responses to comments! I'm often misunderstood by many - I have the tangle of thoughts thing going on in my head too. Most often it is Matt who is all confused - he somehow isn't able to read my mind and know the 20 thoughts that came before the words that I spoke. What's wrong with him? ;)
ReplyDeleteI'm ready to be done being a mom by the time Matt gets home - and I just have 1 child! On really rough days, I call and beg him to come home early. How sad is that?
Looking forward to reading more!
Joelle,
ReplyDeleteI SO relate to expecting my spouse to telepathically follow my silent mind trail before I speak the supposedly random thought :) Men.
And no, I don't think it's sad you call Matt begging him to come home early.
It makes me feel better ;)