Family Personality - Affecting Our Adult Relationships

This is a continuation of discussing how our past influences our adulthood relationships.
Again, I want to make it clear that I hold no degree in child or family psychology, so the following ideas really have no clout, whatsoever! ;)

I personaly feel the family environment (personality) in which we were raised plays a very important role in who we become as adults. Specifically, our adult relationships.
Were your parents out-going extroverts who loved to party and get out on the town? Or are they introverts who prefered a quiet evening at home, relaxing with a good book? Did your family settle arguments with shouting matches or well-ordered court room like debates? Or did they ignore problems and never directly deal with anything?  Did your family love the outdoors and camp every chance, or was your idea of outdoor time walking the dog around the city block?

Granted, there are several examples of the "black sheep" of the family. God has wired us all different. But if our family personality was to play rowdy, rough-house games and boistrously laugh at one another, then we will most likely behave like that as well. Makes it kind of awkward for the more introverted in-law who is used to family gatherings consisting of calm, quiet, sit down games and talk. And while the introvert certainly knows how to laugh, the constant ribbing and teasing and loud laughter may appear to be mean or too much noise.

STOP, STOP, STOP.

I'm going to shift gears here.   Yes, I believe a person's childhood family personality plays a huge roll in how s/he relates to others as an adult.  But there are too many variables and circumstances to try and tuck it neatly away in one blog post.  Especially when, in truth, I know nothing of substantial consequence about how the past effects our adult relationships.

However, in thinking about adult relationships, there is a nugget of truth worthy of sharing.  I will use family personality to illustrate.

In my family growing up, ribbing and teasing were normal. But I have to watch how I tease others because they may take offense at my teasing if they grew up in a different family dynamic. Conversely, I can not be offended if someone else acts/behaves differently than what I think of as "normal". They probably just grew up in a different family environment than me.
I think a lot of relationship issues could be resolved by people being slower to judge someone elses intentions.

We filter what people say and do according to our past experiences. We need to remember that others have different past experiences.  So in probably the best part of this post, I'd like to leave you with a Bible verse:

James 1:19 - Eveyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.

There.  I am done discussing the "past affecting adult relationships" .  I know I said spirituality was number 3 and promised a 3-post series, but why ramble when I have nothing productive to say?  Yes, I know that has not stopped me in the past,  but I like to think I occasionaly learn :)
I'll just give you the one thing I know to be true about spirituality affecting adult relationships:
Jesus Christ is the key.  When we know and accept His great love for us, we will want to treat others with love and kindness.  And isn't the golden rule the basis for great relationships in a nutshell?
(John 3:16) (John 13:34,35) (Matthew 22:37-40)

Interactive:
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